我每天都会在社交媒体上收到很多不错的问题,并选出一些进行回复。有读者告诉我,他们也想看看这些问题和回复,所以我决定把它们整理起来,用全新的“每周回答”形式与大家分享, 让更多读者受益。欢迎大家继续和我讨论这些问题以及有关《原则》等话题。

提问

所以同一个人也不应该被自己过去的经验限制,case by case, do not get stuck in any mindset.

回答

意思是要做到谦虚。如果你没有任何经验,就要认识到自己是理论化,这意味着你可以提出自己的观点,但需要现实地考虑自己正确的可能性,同时要以开放的心态去对观点进行压力测试。但去试试吧,去设想看看,而后拭目以待。如果下属缺乏经验,你应当欢迎这样想象式的探索。

It means be humble. When you don’t have any experience realize that you are theorizing so you can have your opinion but you need to realistic about its likelihood of being right and open-mindedly stress test it. But go for it! Be imaginary and see! And those who have inexperienced people working for them should welcome that imaginary exploration.

提问

有教无类 因材施教,个人觉得老师理解学生更重要,但如何向学生解说是需要研究的。

回答

我认为在师生关系中,每个人应当认识到这一点:老师极大可能是正确的。所以我认为学生尝试去理解老师,比起老师去弄懂学生所有的理由更加实际。

I believe that in a student teacher relationship, one should recognize that the teacher is probably mostly likely to be right so it is more practical for the student to seek out teacher’s understanding than for the teacher to seek all the reasons that the student has.

提问

内心深处的需求和恐惧是由大脑中控制情绪的部分决定的,这让我们难以自审。

回答

为了得到客观的评价,要让其他具有可信度的人评价你。观察一下你自己对批判意见的反应,看看你是否接纳意见,或受到意见的困扰。留意自己如何应对这些评价,看看自己是否想要做出改变。

To get objectively reviewed, have other believable parties review you. Notice your own reactions to critical feedback to see if you welcome it or if it bothers you. Notice what you do with it to see if you seek to make changes or don’t.

提问

曾经有人觉得我不应该一个人拿定所有的主意,而要多倾听别人的建议。到最后发现不是应该多倾听别人的建议,不要多去问别人。将他们的想法融入到我的思考格局中,反而导致了错误的估计,以至于对最近的一些局势的错误判断。而是应该增加自己的沟通能力,让别人更舒服的接受我的理解。

回答

虽然你的沟通技巧可能会妨碍你很好地表达自己的观点,但避免无理由地执着于自己的观点却对你有益。问问你自己,别人会觉得谁才最可能是对的。

While your communication skills can stand in the way of you presenting your arguments well, you would be well-served to not be unjustifiably attached to your own views. Ask yourself who others would say would be most likely to be right.

提问

自己做学生,就不在决策者的位置上了。如果自己要做决策者或者决策建议者,提高可信度就必不可少。@瑞达利欧 这里给出的方法真的非常有效!

回答

我很高兴听到我的原则能够帮到你。谢谢你告诉我。请把它们分享给其他人。

It’s joyful to me to hear how helpful you find the them. Thank you for telling me. Please pass them along to others.

提问

痛苦和快乐都在帮助我们认识这个世界的真相。在这点上说痛苦和快乐是平等的,都是我们的好老师。

回答

我同意痛苦和快乐同样重要,虽然它们会传递不同的讯息。

They are equally important though they provide different messages.

提问

Last week,I had a reading activity books with my friends,Principles is so nice to read

回答

我很高兴看到你把这些原则分享给朋友,并且觉得它们是有价值的。这些原则对我是无价的,同时我现在所处的阶段是希望把我所拥有的最有价值的东西分享出去。因此,听到这些原则可以帮到他人,真的令我欣慰。

I’m so glad that you passed these principles to your friends and that they and you find them valuable. Since I have found them invaluable and I’m now at a stage in my life that I want to pass along whatever I have that is most valuable, it is music to my ears that they are helping others.


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